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Thap Tawan Village (I’ve Never Been So Dark In My Life)

Monday, April 18th, 2005

I’ve been put to work right away at a Sea Gypsy village that lost all their homes, most of the livestock, and many lives. We are building 42 homes to replace the ones lost. There have been a lot of interesting characters in the village; Seewai one of the elders of the village is this great old man that asks us to call him Loo (Uncle). Pe, Moo, and one of my favorites O, is a nut, he’s brash arrogant and funny, (sounds like someone I know) rounds out a few of the villagers.

All the volunteers are great people. Some of the standouts are Jan Erik and Kalle are both from Sweden, Ben from England. A few from the U.S.: Adam, Brad, and a Vikings fan (go Packers) from Minneapolis named Anna. A cute Canadian named Leean.Then there is Thilo, from Southwest Colorado, who is leading the project. Pretty fun guy, a bit of a Spicolli and everyone thinks he’s from California because of it. You know, I take offense as a native Californian and as a surfer!!! When will people learn that surfers don’t sound like Spicolli?
“Hey Mr. Hand dude.”

Our days are spent in 90-100 degree heat digging ditches, mixing concrete, pouring footings, building cement block walls. It’s tiring, hard work, but the villagers feed us everyday with great fish curries, varied pork dishes, vegetables and fresh fruit like Rambutans, Mangos and my new favorite Mangosteens.

If we’re lucky we get to work in the shade for a bit but most of the time we are working in the open. At first I would burn from working shirtless, but now I just darken up each day. In fact I was reading the other day in my room with just a small amount of light coming through the window and I looked at my arm… I thought for a minute I was black I have become so dark. My ass still glows in the night but man the rest of me, damn I’m getting sexy tan!!!

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A Tale Of Two Cities

Thursday, April 07th, 2005

Tokyo, Japan

The first leg of my trip had me land in Tokyo, Japan. It was a real thrill for me to visit Japan because I was born here 28 years ago. I left when I was 1 ½ (well, with a little help from my parents). I don’t remember anything because I was just a baby. I want to say it was symbolic being there, so close to where I was born but I felt just like anywhere else. The culture is quite strange and I had no clue how to do things like go from A to B… Luckily I had Rivas.

I know Rivas through Chris. I stayed with him, his Wife Masako, their daughters Megan and Momo and Masako’s Mother and Father. It was truly a gift for me to stay with them, they live in an ordinary Japanese home in residential district where very few foreigners go or live.

The Culture & City Life
In the city centers like Shinjiku and Shibuya there are people in every direction. The place is packed!!! Even more so than New York. I just heard Tokyo is the most densely populated city in the world! The trains are jammed, the subways are jammed, the streets are jammed – all with thousands of people.

And they have themselves an eccentric culture!!! They are something else. Don’t get me wrong I don’t want to piss on their way of life… It’s just so strange to me. A lot is based on the traditional life meeting technology and modern living. People go fucking nuts here because of the social pressures and the introverted nature of the society. I hear Japan has the highest rate of suicide in the world. It has to do with the fact that it’s discouraged to show your emotion. Coming back after hanging out Rivas and I would see old drunken guys singing and in tears for whatever their minds were dwelling on. For the most part that was the extent of inner expression making itself outwards. The majority of the Japanese people keep to there own. On the trains you see everyone text messaging or reading or just staring into blank space in their own little world. The younger generation I noticed, more so near the hot spots in Tokyo for westerners, seemed a little more outward, but could still sense reservation. Rivas and I being a boisterous pair of lads and very extroverted were always getting stares at and giggles from the girls because we stood out so much.

Sentos
We went to traditional sentos, or public baths where people bathe as in the old days before many people had showers or baths in their home. The sentos were one of my favorite things to do in Japan and not just because of the old, naked Japanese men… It was one my favorite pastimes because it’s relatively inexpensive, (everything in Tokyo is expensive by the way), and in such a modern city it’s nice to take part in an old world tradition.

I have never been so clean in my life!!! You come into the bath area and you sit on a stool in front of a shower head and clean yourself, then you get into the ofuro, it’s a very hot bathtub, 45° C. I’m not sure what it is in Farenheit, but it’s HOT!!! You sit in that communal style and relax for 5-10 minutes then get out and clean yourself again.

My seduction to the porn industry
Rivas and I met this guy named Romeo, (of course it was… what else would it be?) We hooked up with him and some friends at a sushi restaurant and we hit it off with him. I had my camera with me and when it was revealed that Romeo was in the escort business Rivas concocted a little white lie that I worked for Larry Flint Productions and was one of Hustler’s leading photographers until I had a drug meltdown and had to get out of the industry. So Romeo pays for our sushi which was probably 90,000 Yen, and we follow him to a S&M club where he had a girl coming to meet us. While we waited we had the pleasure of watching Japanese boys dress up as girls and be spanked by their mistresses. Pretty fun actually, (remember what I said about that locked up stuff? Well this is what happens when it comes out…)

So Romeo’s girl shows up and then the camera came out and some beer starts flowing and I start flowing and shooting and having fun and everyones having fun and we shoot as much as I can then we start having fun with the chains and the whips and I’m tying the Mamasan of the place up with chains and spanking her and then Rivas and I decide to go as the sunrises.

Good bye Tokyo
My Dad told me a myth the Japanese believe in before I left for Japan. The myth says that if you see Mt. Fuji as you leave Japan, you will for sure come back to Japan again.

Apparently I saw it from the plane when I was 1 and a half years old, (I have to take Dad’s word on that cause I don’t remember).

I did not see Fuji this time, so what my future holds for getting back is uncertain. I have, however, always wanted to go to the North island of Japan – Hokkaido to photograph the wonderful landscapes and culture there. And I have good friend who lives there, and enjoyed myself tremendously.

Chances are… I’ll be back.


Bangkok, Thailand

I was not even prepared for Bangkok. I had no idea how crazy it was. This is how I can describe it so you get somewhat of a handle on what it’s like; It’s like Tijuana mulitiplied by 8, divided by a large filthy curving river. Instead of churches like in T.J. you have Wats or Temples every few blocks, and Monks dressed in beautiful orange robes walk the streets in the morning, (The monks can only eat what is offered to them and they have to fast from noon until the following morning.) Throw in lots of people, smog, and millions of the world’s craziest motorcycle, car, taxi and Tuk-tuk drivers and you have the worlds most congested city and a small sense of the place.

Khao San Road
This is where all the backpackers and travelers go for guesthouses and knockoff designer watches and a fine selection of women and ladyboys, all of which are available for the right price. The right price is a very flexible concept as well.

It is a good place to base yourself out of if you want to see the older parts of Bangkok. The food is good, there are restaurant/bars that show the latest pirated movies and the big soccer matches (which by the way you slowly start to call Football because the rest of the world calls it that).

In fact at one place you can be eating Kao Pad Moo or Pad Thai, drinking a Singha beer, checking your email and chatting, while watching that night’s movie.

I found that I got out of that area as much as I could to explore different areas which is easy because of the superfluity of Tuk-tuks.

Tuk-tuks
Who was the man that decided strapping a lawn mower engine onto a Red Flyer Wagon and charging people to ride in it at very high speeds into oncoming traffic? I think Disney should replace “Mr. Toad’s Wild Ride” (my favorite), with “Mr. Ping’s Tuk Tuk Adventure Happy Show Ride” (a typical Asian name for something like that by the way) and just bring in some tuk tuks and their drivers.

The Market
So, I was walking around just basically getting lost one day and I wandered into this market. Inside all kinds of fruit, vegetables, herbs, live chickens, live fish, live eels, live turtles, and live… well, other stuff.

I had just taken some photos of a guy fishing with a net in the really dirty water of the Chao Phraya river and concluded that the catfish that were trying to jump out of the bin and attack me were the very ones he was catching. It was a disturbing thought… I don’t think I will eat any fish here.

Muay Thai
I was so excited to see my first Muay Thai match. Muay Thai is the national sport of Thailand (Thai Boxing). Chris got me into it over a year ago he and I have been practicing it at City Boxing downtown ever since. So… with tremendous interest I found myself front row watching 9 bouts one night at Ratchadomnoen Stadium. It was so exciting to see my first fight in Thailand. The first 2 fights were boys about 10 to 12 years old. It was jaw dropping to see their ripped little bodies. These kids had abs that would make Arnold look flabby.

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Almost gone… Almost gone….

Thursday, February 24th, 2005

Hi everybody!!! I’m still here!
Did I ruin the anticipation of photos of exotic Bangkok? So sorry. I fly out of LAX on the 1st of March now. Next Tuesday!!! It’s really close and I have a lot to do. I need to shop for a few more items, finish 3 more sets of plans, sell all my stuff and store the rest in 5 days!!! Crazy huh? If you have some time you can devote to helping me please let me know I appreciate any help as it get’s nearer and nearer. Also I have a number of items to sell, please see below.

Yay!!! The Boys have a home.
It was coming down to the wire to find a home for my kitties. But my friend Thomas has agreed to watch them for the year. I know he will be a great pet owner. And I already have people asking for visitation rights. HaHa. Seems like Kazoo and B-Side were putting on their charming side at the party. Speaking of which….

The Party…
An epic party!!! One that will go down in the annals of our Party History book. There were so many great people there Chris, Gina and I had such an incredible time. I would like to get some photos from people if they have them. I know there were some cameras floating around and Iike to get them up for people to look at. I met cool new people and old friends showed up and made an appearance. We had people so little that needed to wear diapers and people that were in their 60’s!!! HaHa. Where else do you get such an awesome range of wonderful peoples? The DJ’s Andrew Chan and Matt (DJ Shugar) Loney did an incredible job. I am taking some of Matt’s mixes with me for the thai people. If you want their info let me know.

All in all, It was such a beautiful way to say goodbye to you all. Thank you for making it such a special night! I love you all.

(Here’s one picture… I don’t remember where Viviana’s other hand is but I think it has something to do with my expression…. ; )

Things winding down?… Hardly
I have 3 projects that I will be finishing as I step on the plane practically!!! HaHa. I have been getting so much done and am looking forward to sleeping a long time on my way to Tokyo where I will stay 2 or 3 days with a friend and visit the place I was born. Then it’ll be on to Bangkok!!! I will be there also for a few days. My plan is to buy a motorcycle and ride down to Khao Lak.

I’ve been Blessed…
I was blessed last night by a Buddhist Monk!!! Andrew Chan set up the ceremony at his temple. It was really cool! The monk, dressed in the most vibrant orange robes, held a cord around me and prayed and chanted and expelled all the bad demons away from me (At least that’s what I think he did, everything was in the Lao language which is similar to Thai). Then he splashed holy water on me while I knelt to the ground. And then tied a good luck bracelet around my wrist and gave me a Buddha medallion. It was very spiritually uplifting and refreshing!!!
It was a bit bizarre at one point when the monk pulled out his ringing cell phone from his very vivid garment and answered his phone right there!!! HaHa I guess you can’t escape technology huh?
Andrew himself, whose given Thai name is Anousone Chanthavixay, will be entering the Temple as a Monk himself for one week! That’s right he will shave his head a eyebrows and won’t be able to flirt or touch women. One week without a womans touch??? That’d kill me!!! Haha.
Andrew is doing this in tribute to his mother that past away three years ago. Way to go Andrew!!! My blessings are with you and your mother. Khab Kuhn Mak (Thank you very much)

Stuff to get rid of.

It’s kind of weird to say i’m selling all my wordly possesions. I feel Like I’m the one becoming a Monk. Haha. I do have a lot of stuff to get rid of and so does Chris. If you need something we might have it. Give me a call or shoot me an email. I have a partial list here with some pics.
Craigslist Ad
Please let me know if there is something you would like.

Please Help!!!
HaHa… It’s getting tight and I don’t want to push my departure back anymore if you have some spare time to assist in me getting out of here I would greatly appreciate it. Tasks could be anything from cleaning and throwing stuff away to making calls for me. Please give me a call and let me know. Thank you so much!!!

Until Next Time…
I believe I will be in Tokyo or Bangkok the next time I write. Please continue to send words of encouragement. I love you all!!!

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Well It’s Official

Thursday, February 10th, 2005

Shock

Well they say the trip starts when you get your ticket. I got mine yesterday!!! I was really excited about it. I got my ticket, got my second series of shots, sold my surfboard….

Everything was fine until I got home tonight and I noticed my couches were gone. There was nothing wrong with that because I had sold them earlier in the day… I just got present to that I am really doing this. I’m not sure the feeling I had at that moment; anxiety, loss, home sickness. HA and I haven’t even made it to the airport yet.

I had a great overwhelming sense of sadness for what I’m leaving, which I suppose is part of the process. Even though I was born in Japan, I have been here in San Diego since I was a year and a half old.

…In fact today I was recalling the day I learned to ride a bicycle…. Hehe I can remember every little detail from out behind our house on Delaware Street in Imperial Beach. I remember the berry bushes weren’t the same height of the fence yet (remember those berries that you would pluck off of the bush and eat or throw at your friends in a berry fight and stain each others shirts?), I remember Dad pushing me on my yellow and blue Huffy from behind in the alley to get the speed going while I peddled and peddled my little 5 year old legs off. I also remember him stopping and letting me ride off with “balance” but not “steer” and hitting a curb and falling down.

I know I’ll only be gone for a year… But this is my home… And you are really wonderful friends… And I’ll really miss both.

Oh… by the way… I’m still going!!!

Kitties, Kitties, Kitties

Kazoo and B-Side are still needing a home. I am attaching pictures so you can see what they look like. They’re 6 year old Twin Brother Orange Tabbies and have personality pouring out there oversized ears. Please let me know if you or anyone else is interested. I have only 13 days before I leave and I want to make sure that they assimilate to their newplace before I go.

Love,

William

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OUCH!!!! That hurts!

Wednesday, February 02nd, 2005

Well a little update for you all.

I just got my immunization shots and boy it hurt… not my arm but my bank account. I think the shots were more than what I’ll spend on my plane ticket!!!
But rest assured I could lay on a bed of rusty nails while drinking untreated water from a mosquito infested swamp and not catch a thing. I actually believe I got the shots that make mosquitoes fly away when they see you walking down the street.

So I have had to delay my flight a week to ensure my projects are totally complete. I will gladly take a week in order to have as much integrity intact with myself, my friends, clients etc.
I have made tremendous progress however and each day there are more and more items checked off my list. I had no idea how difficult it is to completely pack up your whole life in 4- weeks. WOW!!!
I haven’t been sleeping a whole lot the last couple of days just to get some extra time to work on and complete my remodel projects. I’ve never been more alive either.

The response from everyone has been just incredible. Friends, family, people I don’t even know have called and emailed with words of encouragement and tales of inspiration. I have had people share about family members that were there in Phuket as the wave hit. Friends have shared with me just what I’ve meant for them in there life and how I had certain impacts on their lives. This has been the toughest…. I hear my friends tell me this and I don’t want to leave that love. I’ve been freaked out, scared and overwhelmed at times and I use the incredible things you all have said as my motivator to accomplish what I set out to do. While I have not earned much as far as aid and sponsorship, the support you all have provided for me has been way more powerful than any amount of money.
Thank you all.

So here were a few items that were left a bit open from my last email:

The Loft
The word about the loft is this: The Landlord is requesting that whoever comes in be a business. They are trying to make this building businesses only due to insurance reasons. So if you are a photographer this is a great location to have a studio. There is a huge space on the first floor for shooting. I built a great darkroom and I’m sorry to see it go. I will be leaving the sink I built and the other darkroom stuff (enlarger, trays, etc).
In return I am going to ask for a $1500 finders/improvement/equipment fee in addition to whatever the landlord will end up charging. We can work out some form of payment so it doesn’t necessarily have to be at once.
You can see a couple images of the darkroom and the rest of the loft here: www.williambay.com/forsale

Stuff for sale
Since I will not be coming back to my loft I have no idea where or how I will be setting myself up when I get back. So there is a lot of stuff I will be selling. I will put together a more formal list in the next few days and may have a Garage(less) Sale this weekend. But for now I have some pictures www.williambay.com/forsale that you can view and if there is something you need let me know and we can work out a price. I of course have lot’s of photos that I do not want to store I will be selling these at a seriously reduced rate from my normal fine art print pricing.

What’s Left?
I am maintaining a checklist of items to get accomplished before I leave here www.williambay.com/checklist.htm . The items in red are complete. Each day the list seems to get larger. What’s great though is that I get something checked off everyday. Those days I get lots of stuff checked off are the really good ones!!!

What the hell is a Blog?
I started a Blog (web log) it’s an online journal to document my journey, to share my thoughs, adventure, photos and to stay close to you all. The Blog is here. www.williambay.com I won’t be sending emails like this in the future, everything will be posted straight to the Blog.

We are still having the party on the 12th. My friend Viviana has been wanting to do a Singles party so we will do that also and have it be Thai theme or something. Look out for the Evite coming to a mailbox near you soon.

I love you all!!!

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